12 Steps to great blowjobs:
1. Consider bathing. If you're new to oral sex, you might be worried about taste and smell. You can just dive in and enjoy your lover's natural fragrances, or you can suggest a sexy bath or shower together if you'd rather start with a clean slate. You can also add a bit of flavored lubricant to his penis or put on a flavored condom, which is great for safe oral sex.
2. Get comfortable. Your comfort is key to your enjoyment, and fellatio puts a particular strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while he’s standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. Or he can lie on his back and you can crouch in between his legs, a position that gives you lots of control.
3. Touch. Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum, paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spot on a guy’s penis is the head (known as the glans), especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis.
4. Give him a lick. Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Don’t be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. If you’re practicing safer sex, or you’re not crazy about your lover’s taste, put on a condom and/or some flavored lubricant.
5. Take him in your mouth. When he’s semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as you’re comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down the penis.
6. Watch the gag reflex. If you’re not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), don’t try it or you’ll trigger the gag reflex. It’s not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below. With practice, you can learn to relax your gag reflex and take in more of the penis.
7. Mouth and tongue. As your head travels up the underside of the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don’t be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses—the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis—but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.
8. Foreskin fun. If your partner is uncircumcised, insert your tongue into the foreskin and circle around the head with it. You can also use your fingers to gently massage the head through the foreskin, alternating with deep tongue licks.
9. Mouth and hand tip 1. A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If you're partner is thrusing, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth.
10. Mouth and hand 2. If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head (as if you were juicing an orange), and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat.
11. Let him come. When he’s ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firm—don’t slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men don’t want continued stimulation once they’ve come.
12. To swallow or not? This decision is entirely up to you. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. If you don't want to swallow, remove your mouth as he's about to ejaculate, and continue hand stroking through his orgasm.
